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Jan 2019 Housing Market In Review

By | Real Estate

Well January 2019 has come and gone, what next?

Having recently attended the CREB Forecast Breakfast I heard the reality of our job creation and population growth from chief economist, Ann-Marie Lurie. It appears Calgary has no foreseeable relief  for our repressed Real Estate market. However, with all things said homes are still selling. It comes down to being the best of the best. Understanding your homes pros and cons from location to presentation in a buyers market. I recommend taking your time to step back from your home and view it with a fresh perspective, look at what is happening in your community. Visit some show homes. Consult a home stager or attend a home staging class. The average investment for preparing your home for sale is 1% to 3% of the total home value.

Remember it is the best of the best homes that is selling. Best price, best location, best presentation or the best deal. Buyers have time and choice on their side.

Soooo, here is the good news. Now is the time to move up!  Lets say your home adjusted from $400k to $360k over the past few years. That same 10% adjustment in a $600k would mean that home now is at $540K or less.  (These are just examples and not on a specific property)

All in all this is a good year to be cautious but continue moving forward. A year to lean into your community and family. A year to count your blessings and be open to asking for guidance. A year to finish your reading list or start the book of your life.

Christmas Lights & Cocoa

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Christmas Season is one of my favourite times. Between the decorations, food and events there is so much energy. Fuzzy blankets, frothy hot chocolate and crackling fire stimulate all the senses. Every year since i was a little girl I have loved riding around with hot chocolate in hand oooing and awing at christmas lights. Now days, there are so many ways to find all the displays from the traditional driving around to the online sites like https://lightenupcalgary.ca/

So be sure to grab your mitts and cocoa, turn up the carols and enjoy the the season!

Snowman Soup

When the weather outside is frightful, Snowman soup can be delightful.

May it warm your spirit and your soul, Let it snow let it snow let it snow.

When you feel a chill or burrrrrrrrrrrrr, Use a peppermint stick to stir.

Add hot water and sip it slow   , Let it snow let it snow let it snow

 

Hot chocolate recipe

1 ½ cup cocoa

2 cups powdered sugar

3 cups powdered milk

1 ½ cup powdered non-dairy creamer

 

*Mini marshmallows

*peppermint sticks

* after the drive, add crème de menthe for mama

Thoroughly mix all dry ingredients and store in air-tight container. To serve, place 4 heaping tsp into mug and add hot water. Top with mini marshmallows peppermint stick.

 

Christmas Skiing??

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Looking to get away for a quick vacation over the Christmas break? There’s nothing like popping out to the mountains for a day or two of hitting the slopes.

Here’s the 10 Best Ski Resorts within 5 hours of Calgary and a quick glance at the kinds of activities they have going on over the holidays.

Lake Louise Ski Resort

Winner of 2018 Canada’s Best Ski Resort.

Located 57 km west of Banff. Lake Louise is one of three major ski resorts located in Banff National Park. The resort is situated on the southern slopes of the Slate Range, between the heights of Mount Richardson, Ptarmigan Peak, Pika Peak and Redoubt Mountain. The base of the slopes is defined by Pipestone River, a tributary of the Bow River, immediately north of the intersections between Highway 1A (Bow Valley Trail), Highway 1 (Trans-Canada Highway), and Highway 93(Icefields Parkway).

Events:

Dec. 22 & 23 – Christmas Cheer with Santa Claus, Find Santa on the Slopes with his Elves

Dec. 24 – Christmas Turkey Feast, Night Tubing & Magical Entertainment, Plus a Visit from Santa Claus

Dec. 31  – Rocky Mountain New Year’s Eve – Spectacular Buffet Dinner, Night Tubing & Dance Party wit hOne Nite Band

Marmot Basin

Marmot Basin has 91 named runs on four mountain faces with 3,000 vertical feet of drop. The area has a lift capacity of close to 12,000 skiers per hour on seven lifts. With 30% novice, 30% intermediate, 20% advanced and 20% expert runs, Marmot Basin is well-balanced in the terrain it offers to skiers. Marmot Basin’s facilities and services include 7 lifts, including the Canadian Rockies Express high-speed quad chair – the longest in the Canadian Rockies, 3 on-mountain day lodges, a full-service Rental Shop, Snow Sports School, eateries, a nursery, retail shop, and 45 acres of incredible advanced and expert off-piste skiing and snowboarding terrain. Marmot Basin is located twenty minutes south of the town of Jasper.

Events:

Dec. 25 – Ski with Santa

Jan. 5 – Aprés with Pete

 

Fernie Alpine Resort

Delivering over 2500 acres of skiable terrain, up to 37 feet of snow in a season, 142 named runs, 5 alpine bowls, state of the art snowmaking and grooming equipment, and an exceptional beginner’s area, Fernie is a true winter playground for skiers and riders of all levels. Also now featuring the most snow, most ski runs, and biggest vertical in the Rockies! Epic snow. Big lines. Vast mountains. A historic town complete with stories & legends. Interesting characters. Passionate people. This is Fernie. Where legendary skiing and snowboarding fuses with real stories from locals, pioneers, ski bums and freeskiers in one of the most classic Rocky Mountain ski towns in North America.

Events:

Dec. 23 & 24 – Ski & Photos with Santa

Dec. 31 – Cirque New Year’s Eve Dinner & Party

Dec. 31 – New Year’s Eve Family Fun Event (Including Fire Works)

 

Castle Mountain Resort

Castle Mountain is a ski resort located in the Westcastle Valley of southwest Alberta. It is approximately 270 kilometres from Calgary and 50 kilometres west of Pincher Creek. The resort is renowned for long steep runs and an average 9 metres (30 ft) of snowfall yearly. Despite the name, Castle Mountain Resort is not actually on Castle Mountain, which is about 240km away. The resort maintains 78 ski trails including 8 alpine bowls, with 15% beginner, 40% intermediate, 35% advanced, 10% expert terrain. Six lift systems are operated on the slopes of Mount Haig and Gravenstafel Ridge.

Events:

Dec. 22 – Ugly Sweater Day & Party

Dec. 25 – Ski with Santa

Dec. 28 & 29 – Scenic Snow Cat Experience

Dec. 29 – Night Skiing

Dec. 31 – New Year’s Eve Party

 

Kicking Horse Mountain Resort

Kicking Horse Mountain Resort is located 14 km outside of Golden. It features what is currently the fourth highest vertical drop in North America, at 4,133 feet (1,260 m). It is only 6 feet (1.8 m) shorter than Jackson Hole. In total, the resort includes over 2,800 acres of skiable lift-served terrain. The resort was named after the nearby Kicking Horse River and Kicking Horse Pass, although the resort is in the Purcell Mountains.

Events:

Dec. 22 & 23 – Ski with Santa

Dec. 24 – Christmas Eve Service & Santa Deliveries

Dec. 27 – Kicking it with the Kids

Dec. 29 – Whitetooth Grill Aprés Concert Series

Dec. 31 – New Year’s Eve at Kicking Horse

 

Kimberley Alpine Resort

The resort proudly boasts the best combination of sun and light powder of any other resort in Canada! With over 1,800 acres of terrain, 80 named runs and glades, and a variety of TRUE ski-in/ski-out accommodations, there’s plenty to discover. Located in the Purcell Range of the Canadian Rockies, Kimberley offers stunning scenery and a laid-back, relaxed atmosphere that lets you make the most of your winter getaway. On North Star Mountain, your skiing experience includes a newly enhanced beginner’s area, enjoyable long intermediate trails, and exciting glades and steep terrain for the advanced skier and rider. Other incredible activities include cross-country skiing, dog sledding, and snowshoeing.

Events:

Dec. 23 – Photos with Santa, Smash the Pinata, Free Face Painting, Helmet Decorating & Kids Night Out

Dec. 24 – Breakfast with Santa, Free Face Painting, Helmet Decorating, Santa’s Baloon Parade

Dec. 26 – Free Face Painting, Helmet Decorating, Family Slalom, Kids Night Out & Night Skiing

Dec. 27 – Free Face Painting, Helmet Decorating, Smash the Pinata, Photo Scavenger Hunt, Kids Night Out & Night Skiing

Dec. 28 – Free Face Painting, Helmet Decorating, Ice Skating Party, Night Skiing & Kids Night Out

Dec. 29 – Lost Elves, Smash the Pinata, Night Skiing & Kids Night Out

Dec. 30 – Free Face Painting, Helmet Decorating, Powder Pig’s Baloon Parade, Holiday Family Game, Night Skiing & Kidz Night Out

Dec. 31 – Free Face Painting, Helmet Decorating, Snowflake Hunt, New Years Eve Party & Fireworks

 

Naskiska Mountain Resort

Nakiska is located 83 km from Calgary, west on Highway 1 (Trans-Canada Highway) and south on Highway 40 (Kananaskis Trail). “Nakiska” is a Cree word meaning “to meet” or “meeting place.” Set on the east face of the southern end of Mount Allan, Nakiska has 64 trails with four chairlifts (3 high-speed quads and 1 double), 1 Reg Magic Carpet and 1 Monster Carpet) set up over an area of 3 kmThe longest run is 3.3 km, from a top lift-served elevation of 2,258 m (7,408 ft) to the base at 1,479 m (4,852 ft).

Dec. 23 – 25 – Christmas at Nakiska

 

Panorama Mountain Resort

Panorama is magical. It’s where the winter and the wild meets warmth and welcome. It’s a mountain resort and an alpine village tucked deep into Canada’s oldest mountains. It’s not just another resort with great skiing and riding. This is where the best winter memories are made. Panorama Mountain Resort is located in the Purcell Mountains of southeastern British Columbia. Part of the Columbia Valley sub-region of the East Kootenay region, it is a tourist destination known for its rolling cliffs and views of the Rocky Mountains.

Events:

Dec. 23 – Maple Taffy, Storytelling with Mrs. Claus, Snowshoe Tour, Letters to Santa, Snow Fun, Christmas Tie Dye, PJ Movie Party, Christmas Nature Crafts, Christmas Beading Workshop, Twilight Snowshoe & S’mores

Dec. 24 – Sip n’ Skate, Photos with Santa, Guided Snowshoe Tour, Scavenger Hunt, Wood Burning, Ornament Decorating, Letters to Santa, Carols by Candlelight, Campfire & S’mores

Dec. 25 – Paragliding Santa, Maple Taffy, Guided Snowshoe Tour, Gingerbread House Building, Snow n’ Swim, Musical Bingo, Christmas Tie Dye, Christmas Dinner, Twilight Snowshoe & S’mores

Dec. 26 – Sip n’ Skate, Guided Snowshoe Tour, Ornament Decorating, Scavenger Hunt, Nature Crafts, Family Movie Night, Beading Workshop

Dec. 31 – Sip n’ Skate, Ukulele Lesson, Wood Burning, New Year’s Eve Dinner, Campfire & S’mores, Snowshoe & Fireworks Tour, Parade & Fireworks, Family New Year’s Eve Party

 

Revelstoke Mountain Resort

Revelstoke Mountain Resort is just outside Revelstoke, British Columbia. For decades, helicopter and cat skiers from around the world have flocked to Revelstoke attracted by its perfect powder, varied alpine terrain and quaint mountain community. RMR offers the most vertical in North America at 1,713 metres (5,620 ft) of lift-accessed terrain, 3,121 acres of fall line skiing, 4 high alpine bowls, and 69 named runs and areas, including legendary glades and phenomenal groomers. Skiers and snowboarders visiting Revelstoke can access a total of 515,000 acres of terrain, including our Cat Ski terrain, guided backcountry touring, and Selkirk Tangiers Heli Skiing’s tenure.

Events:

 

Dec. 21 – Bonfire & Hot Chocolate

Dec. 22 – Gnome Hunt & Movie Night

Dec. 23 – Craft Night

Dec. 24 – Gingerbread House Night

Dec. 25 – Ski with Santa

Dec. 26 – Boxing Day Derby

Dec. 27 – Pop Up Food Shop & Decorate Cookie Night

Dec. 28 – Craft Night

Dec. 29 – Decorate Cookie Night

Dec. 30 – Movie Night

Dec. 31 – Craft Night for Kids & New Years Eve Extravaganza

 

Sunshine Village

Sunshine Village is located on the Continental Divide within Banff National Park in Alberta and Mt Assiniboine Provincial Park in British Columbia. Because of its location straddling the Continental Divide, Sunshine receives more snow than the neighbouring ski resorts. The Sunshine base area is located 15 kilometres (9.3 mi) Southwest of the town of Banff. By car, it is about a one-hour, thirty-minute drive from the city of Calgary. Sunshine Village ski runs and lifts are accessed via an eight-person high-speed gondola. The gondola takes people from the parking lot (or bus terminal) to Goat’s Eye mountain in 10 minutes and to the Upper Village area in 18 minutes. There are 9 chairlifts and 120 trails within the alpine valley formed by the three mountains (Mount Standish, Lookout Mountain, and Goat’s Eye Mountain) that constitute Sunshine Village.

Events:

Dec. 22 & 23 – Santa on the Mountain

Dec. 24 – Torch Light Parade

Dec. 31 – Torch Light Parade

 

 

Stomach & Soul

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One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well.”
by Virginia Woolf
One of my favourite quotes

 

Open your home up to friends and family by hosting an old fashioned potluck. On of my recent favourite recipes is with my latest and greatest kitchen gadget…. Instant Pot. Make things simple and fun with games and great company . You don’t need to be a chef extraordinaire or have a mansion to gather people together. All you need is a wee bit of organization and a lot of fun.

On of my recent favourite recipes, Crack Chicken, is with my latest and greatest kitchen gadget…. Instant Pot.

Ingredients

  • I package bacon
  • 2 pounds boneless chicken breast
  • 1 packet ranch seasoning
  • 8 oz cream cheese
  • 1/2 cup chardonnay
  • ½ cup smoked gouda
  • ¾  cup cheddar cheese

Instructions

  1. Place chicken and cream cheese in the IP.
  2. Sprinkle the packet of ranch seasoning over the top.
  3. Add chardonnay.
  4. Place your IP on Manual high pressure for 15 minutes. Do a quick release.
  5. Remove chicken only and shred.
  6. Keep your IP on low Add chicken back in. Add cheese and stir. Stir in bacon and enjoy.
  7. Great as an appie with tortilla chips or serve on buns

 

A tool  to help simplify your potluck.  https://www.perfectpotluck.com/

So feed both stomach and soul of those around you.

Happy Holidays,
Kim

10 Bathroom Tile Trends for 2019

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One of the easier and more cost-efficient ways to update a Kitchen or Bathroom is to change out the tile. Whether it’s the backsplash, tile surround or floor, switching out the tile can take your home from boo to whoo hoo!

Here is a quick peek at Tile trends for 2019…

These daring tiles made a splash in 2017 and seem to be gaining ground. Often colourful or mixed pattern, the tiles are used as a feature point in the room. In 2019 expect to see this more and more often in Show Homes.

 

Honeycomb (or Hexagon) will be the number one trend of 2019. Almost every trend on this list can be found in a Honeycomb Shape. Varying in sizes and textures these geometric shapes are showing up in all kinds of design.

 

Bringing together a cohesive design using multiple styles of tiles within the same colour scheme is becoming more popular. Gone are the days of having one kind of tile throughout your entire home. Use a bold pattern in the shower and muted honeycombs in the same colour palette to offer a fresh design statement.

 

Browns have been a no zone for quite a few years, but it seems that warmer tones are slowly starting to push their way back onto the scene. It is important when considering this trend to choose a modern shape tile.

 

Subway is classic, if you are ever at a loss for what to do a simple subway tile will always work. For 2019 this fresh update on the old classic is hot. With multiple ways of installing the tile, this look can work in many different design themes.

 

Though this trend emerged in 2016, it is hanging on. Especially pretty and bold when done in jewel tones, this tile can offer a softer alternative to the straight lines of Subway or Honeycomb shapes. Fish Scale is also really pretty when done on the floor in an oversized pattern.

 

Best used with subway tile, this is another spin on the classic. Vertical Subway Tile can be used side-by-side with horizontal subway as a feature wall or by itself for an updated look.

 

 

Colour lovers everywhere are going to be thrilled with this trend. Jewel tones are popping up in every single area of design. These rich beautiful colours can be paired with dark or light colour palettes and when done tastefully are absolutely dreamy.

 

Trending for years, the modern farmhouse look doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. Simple, clean and cozy with industrial elements this classic look seems to be liked by everyone. Make it fresh by incorporating honeycomb, wood texture or even some bold patterned tiles.

 

Labeled as ‘Cocooning’ on one design blog, the desire to bring the outdoors in has never been stronger. Many people use wood texture tiles on the floor for durability but it is also being used as a way to craft our homes with a retreat lifestyle in mind.

Shop Local Gift Guide

By | Lifestyle, Uncategorised

Are you looking for something unique to buy your loved ones this year, something that has more meaning and relevance than just another thing from the mall? Supporting local artisans is such a thoughtful way to gift… not only are you finding something beautiful… you are keeping dollars in the local economy.

I’ve scoured Etsy to find some awesome gift options for everyone on your list. Whether it’s the person that has everything or your BAE, you will be able to find something for them here.

Scroll through the images below to check out some super talented local artists. You can click on the image to go directly to their Etsy store and begin tackling that holiday list.

Happy Shopping!

Enjoy a Staycation in Calgary

By | Calgary, Vacation

Road trips, month-long holidays and weekend getaways are always a fun time, loads of timeless memories, but dang they’re a lot of work! Between packing, planning and executing the adventure (especially if you have kids) there is only a small fraction of time that allows you to actually enjoy the vacation at all.

That’s why we are encouraging you to put on your tourist hat and enjoy an exciting staycation right here in YYC. Our city has a ton of culinary delights, hidden gems and adventures to be had. Even if you think you’ve seen it all we promise you there are still lots of adventures to be had.

In our most recent episode of Homes and Lifestyles our host, Kim Hayden took a mini tour around Calgary and hit up some of her favourite spots around the city. She highlighted a few of her favourite spots, how to get around, where to dine and hotels with amazing amenities that will have you truly believe you’re on vacation!

Here are just a few must-see locations to add to the bucket list this summer without having to spend a pretty penny on a plane ticket!

The Glenbow

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This magnificent place holds some of the greatest art collections and artifacts from Calgary’s history in all the city. Throughout the last 50 years, the Glenbow has entertained many generations and hosted a variety of unique international art exhibitions that works to connect art, culture and the world around us. Giving us a sense character and place, the Glenbow has helped to shape our community, curate creativity throughout the city and connect us on a national and global level. It’s the spot where our city’s story is best told and we can grantee that you’re in for a memorable and personal experience every time you talk a walk through its art-filled hallways. You can always join them for an exhibition tour, behind-the-scenes experience, a film screening or an artist chat, whatever you prefer. Bring the whole family or simply come on a solo adventure – there is something for everyone in the family to enjoy.

The Calgary Zoo


Travel across the world, without having to leave the city at all! That’s right, the Calgary zoo is split up into continents, so you will feel like you’re in a different climate and country in each exhibit you visit. From red pandas to flamingos to gorillas to lemurs to hippos to penguins, there are lots of animal varieties for you to observe and even interact with, in a safe environment of course. New to the zoo this year re the Giant Panda’s and they have created quite the stir so far. Be sure to check them out more than once in the next few years that they are here. Grab a snack from their many cafés and head out on a safari adventure – YYC style!

See the city on a Segway

 


There are many ways to see the city, but have you seen it on a Segway? If the answer is no, we highly recommend booking on for you and the family this summer. The guides at River Valley Adventure Co will lead the tour, expanding on Calgary’s rich cultural history, while pointing out landmarks and showing you hidden gems that you might have otherwise missed if you were on foot. We can guarantee you this experience is safe, fun and more than memorable. It’s time you saw Calgary from a different angle and fell in love with your city all over again.

The Calgary Tower + SKY 360


It may be cliché, but you have to venture up the tower if you’re spending the day rediscovering Calgary! For most of us that live here, we haven’t actually explored the tower very in-depth. To make your experience even more worth it, this year is the 50th anniversary of our iconic red tower. As a result, they will be hosting a variety of events, contests and fun activities throughout the year in celebration. While you’re there you have to dine at SKY 360 and get a rotating birds-eye view of the city during your meal. This is the truly authentic way to view the city from above!

International Avenue


For a truly unique experience, we highly recommend hitting up the International avenue. This is one of the oldest and original parts of the city and its rich history is still very evident throughout the community. It’s a one-stop shopping stop for all things international! From retail goods, services and food you can find just about any cultural dish here on the ave. We recommend starting at Illichmann’s Sausage Shop Ltd., Begim Uzbekistan Restaurant or Indonesian Kitchen. All are very unique and authentic to the customs and traditions of each culture – especially when it comes to the ingredients. You’ll feel like you’re in a different country at each of these delicious restaurants!

YYC Food Trucks

 

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You’ll see them scattered around the city during lunch hour, along with at the various events, festivals, and activities that happen around the city each summer. The trucks are colourful and each one brings with it, it’s own personality, taste, and experience. They bring people together and hang out in some of the most beautiful corners of our city. Keep an eye out for them this summer and eat your way through Calgary, one food truck at a time!

Shop local


Instead of spending your summer in an air-conditioned mall, head out to the many shopping districts that are scattered around the city. You’ll not only be getting a way better quality product, but you’ll be supporting a small business or the work of local artists or maker while helping to pump up Calgary’s vibrant economy – it all comes full circle. Be sure to hit up Kensington Village, Mission (also known as 4th Street) and Inglewood, just to name a few. Each of these areas holds their own unique character and charm and will have you lost in an adventure all day long!

 

Missed the episode? Watch it here!

In the Bedroom

By | Calgary, Lifestyle, Relationships, Uncategorised | No Comments

We head to the bedroom on Homes & Lifestyles this week. And we don’t just talk about the best way to decorate this very personal space – we do talk about that and it’s amazing – but we also talk about navigating romantic relationships. Specifically, we talk about making meaningful connections with our partner and with ourselves. Because how we treat ourselves directly relates to how we treat our partners and how we expect them to treat us. Self-care and self-love are often the first steps to connection.

On the show, Kim is joined by Kimberly Nelson, a Registered Provisional Psychologist at Flourish Psychological Services, to dive further into this topic. After the show, we caught up with Kimberly to talk about how to approach counselling, specifically relationship counselling. Kimberly guides us through selecting the right person to talk to, what to expect, and when to seek guidance.

Who is relationship counselling for and who can benefit?

Relationship counselling is for anyone who wants to improve their relationship(s). The quality of our lives is often tied to the quality of our relationships. Even with individual therapy, I want to know about your relationship with yourself – how you treat yourself, how you talk to yourself, and how you ask for and accept care from others. How we treat ourselves plays out in what we accept in other relationships too.

In romantic relationships, we’re looking at how effectively the couple functions together – how well they communicate, handle conflict, and meet one another’s needs, both in and out of the bedroom. Interestingly, happy, stable couples don’t necessarily have less conflict, they’re just generally better at routinely repairing the relationship.

With platonic relationships (i.e. family, friends, business partners), we may still look at communication, conflict, goals, and clarifying roles. In any relationship, trust, effective communication, healthy boundaries, shared values and goals, and managing conflict are potential areas that can be improved through counselling.

What’s the best way to find someone you can connect with?

Speaking to your family doctor, word of mouth, or professional sites, such as Psychology Today, are helpful places to start. Sites like Psychology Today allow users to search potential therapists by location, speciality, therapies offered, and rates. You can also see if they offer online booking, free consultation, or direct billing to insurance companies. Here is my profile on Psychology Today as an example.

More than any one type of therapy, the strength of the therapeutic relationship is the strongest predictor of whether a client will reach their goals in therapy. As such, it’s important to find a good match with your therapist. You can’t be all things to all people and neither can a therapist. This is why therapists typically offer a free initial phone consultation. You can get a sense of whether you might be comfortable working with them and you will also have an opportunity to ask questions about their work, credentials, or therapy in general.

How do you know you need relationship therapy?

The short answer is: if you think you do, you do. Unfortunately, research suggests that, couples often come to therapy six years after the problems started. This can create a big hill to climb. Ideally, we want to address issues early. In fact, even happy couples in the early stages of their relationship can benefit from improved communication or conflict skills when the relationship seems easy, motivation to please one another is high, and there isn’t a closet full of hurts to deal with. Singles can also work with a therapist to review patterns in their dating history and to create goals and improved skills for future relationships.

What are some of the reasons people seek out therapy?

People commonly seek therapy during life transitions and major stressors, such as a new marriage, birth, divorce, a death, or a job change. For example, when raising a young family, couples report the lowest levels of relationship satisfaction.

Sometimes there is a crisis, such as infidelity. Just as often, it is a nagging sense of disappointment. After long hours at work, raising kids, aging, etc., people can find their relationships have lost the spark. They may find themselves fighting over the same issues again and again. Another common complaint for couples is differing levels of sexual desire.

What’s the difference between a therapist and a psychologist? Does it matter for relationship therapy?

The terms therapist and counsellor are not regulated. Anyone can say they are a “counsellor” or a “therapist.” Be sure to review credentials.

A psychologist on the other hand, is a protected professional designation. In Alberta, Psychologists are regulated by the College of Alberta Psychologists and are required to abide by the professional ethics and practice standards of the College. Most insurance companies require counselling to be done with a registered member of the College to be eligible for reimbursement under insurance plans. However, each plan is different and clients must check with their insurance providers to confirm the requirements.

What can patients expect during their first visit?

The first session is an opportunity to meet one another and see if there might be a good fit and to ask any initial questions you may have. Your therapist may ask about basic health information (such as current medications) and take a brief history of the problem that brought you to therapy.

I always ask clients three questions in the first session. I ask why therapy, why now, and why me? This helps me explore what the client’s goals might be, what prompted the appointment, especially if the problem has been long standing. Lastly, it tells me if there is something about my work or my profile that spoke to them and possibly gave them hope for change. For some clients, choosing a therapist may be related to something as simple as the location of the practice, the fee schedule, or office hours.

Is the initial session a couples session or solo session?

That depends. It’s ideal if partners can work on the relationship together. However, that’s not always possible. Individuals can work on their relationships in individual therapy. For example, sometimes one spouse demands that the other attend therapy on their own, if the relationship is to continue. An individual client may want to learn relationship skills to take home and apply to their marriage. Sometimes individual counselling is the first step before couples counselling.

For couple’s therapy, usually the partners attend together. However, each partner may attend occasional individual sessions with the therapist. In this case, individual sessions are meant to supplement the couple’s work and there is usually an explicit agreement that anything discussed in the individual sessions may be brought into the next couple’s session. The purpose of this agreement is to preserve the shared trust and bond between the therapist and the couple.

What can be expected throughout treatment?

As Phoenix Brill, the owner of Flourish, often says, “Sometimes, the water gets murky before it clears.” Some sessions can feel wonderful. It can be a great relief to have a skilled professional listen intently and empathize with you. When is the last time you felt truly listened to and understood? However, change can be hard. Learning new insights and skills takes work, but even small steps can lead to big changes!

How many sessions are needed?

Again, it depends. In private therapy, this tends to be individualized depending on the client’s needs and resources (including time and energy – not just finances) and whether they have achieved their goals or not. Once therapy is completed, clients may return for maintenance sessions or to tackle new goals (PS maintenance isn’t just good for cars!).

In community based programs, there are often set limits, such as 6 or 12 sessions. This can also be true of brief therapies (e.g. Solution-Focused Brief Therapy) or structured and skills based therapies (e.g. manualized Cognitive Behavioural Therapy).You can enjoy Kim’s full discussion with Kimberly on the show this Saturday, May 19 at 10:00 a.m. on CTV Calgary. Each week on Homes & Lifestyles, we are joined by inspirational Calgarians who help us dive further into our weekly topics. This week is no different and we thank you for your time Kimberly.

Kimberly has provided additional resources below.

Books:

Getting The Love You Want

Getting The Love You Want Workbook

Getting the Sex You Want

Attached

Passionate Marriage

Come as You Are

Sexual Intelligence

Online Resources:

Esther Perel is a masterful therapist and currently has a fantastic series available on iTunes and audible (free for Audible members). Where Do We Begin explores a variety of couples in a therapy session. It offers a unique opportunity to be a fly on the wall on in couple’s therapy. https://www.estherperel.com/podcast

You can sign up for the marriage minute email with great, science supported tips for making relationships their best. https://www.gottman.com/marriage-minute/

Courses:

Gottman has a wonderful weekend course for couples, yes even happy couples, who want to stay that way!  (https://www.gottman.com/couples/workshops/art-science-of-love/).

 

Garage Sale 411

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Just like the smell of fresh cut grass, garage sales are SUMMER. And if you’re like many Calgarians, you’ll be checking a few out or even hosting a sale of your very own; especially now that this warmer weather is here to stay. Garage sales are a fantastic way to shed items you no longer want or have any use for. Remember, one person’s junk is another person’s treasure! Garage sales make an amazing finale to an intense SPRING cleaning project, so it’s best to prep for one now. After a long winter (and wow, this has been a long one), it is energizing to open the windows, bring out ALL the cleaning products, and get scrubbing. Pair your cleaning efforts with the right organization plan and you’ll be set for preparing for a garage sale of your very own.

On the show this week, Kim learns how to clean and organize her space. Just think S.P.A.C.ESort, Purge, Assign, Containerize, and Evaluate. Kim goes through these steps to get the most out of her space but for now let’s tackle PURGE. You’ve picked out what you no longer need and you are ready for your sale. But are you? Not to worry, your garage sale 411 is here to help.

Getting Started

The best place to start is to talk to your neighbours. See if they have anything coming up and if there is a chance to work together on a sale. If nothing is going on, pick your date and time. Try your best to pick something on the weekend and cross your fingers for good weather. You can share your event on Facebook, Kijiji, or even take out an ad in your local community newsletter. If you don’t have enough items to host a sale, you can always use Facebook buy and sell groups, Kijiji, or sites like VarageSale.

Helpful Tips

Weather you host a sale or use one of the sites above, make sure your item is priced appropriately. Don’t be afraid of a little barter but do the research and know what your item is worth. On the day of your sale, make sure to have enough change (minimum $100) broken up into small amounts. Use a pen and paper to keep track of your sales and how much things went for. It helps to have an extension cord on hand so that interested buyers can try out an electronic device before buying. Keep bags and newspaper on hand for wrapping items and packing them up. Don’t forget signage and balloons to help draw in crowds. Pair that with live Tweeting, Instagram Stories, and Facebook Live and you’ll be sure to attract a crowd online and in the real world. Last tip, make sure to have lots of help!

Donate!

Not everything is going to sell but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t still have worth. Take your left-over items to one of the amazing organizations listed below. We’ve broken down what each will take but be sure to check their website or call ahead if you aren’t sure.

Calgary Drop-In Centre

  • Clothing
  • Furniture
  • Computers
  • Mobile phones
  • Small appliances
  • Books

Habitat for Humanity ReStore

  • Large appliances (less than 10 years old)
  • Furniture
  • Home décor
  • Lighting
  • Electrical supplies
  • Unopened paint, primer, stain
  • Sinks and faucets
  • Showers and bathtubs
  • Cabinets
  • Unopened flooring
  • Hardware and tools
  • Building materials
  • Microwaves

WINS – Women in Need Society Thrift Stores

  • Baby and Children’s Clothes and Toys
  • Women’s Clothes, Shoes and Accessories
  • Men’s Clothes, Suits and Shoes
  • Jewelry and Collectibles
  • Furniture
  • Household Items and Home Décor
  • Sporting Equipment

Electronic Recycling Association (ERA)

  • Unwanted electronics

Cerebral Palsy Association in Alberta

  • Clothing and shoes
  • Bedding, linens, drapes
  • Housewares

WorldServe

  • Bedding, linens, towels
  • Books, CDs, DVDs, games
  • Clothing and footwear
  • Craft items
  • Furniture
  • Home furnishings
  • Antiques
  • Kitchenware
  • Sporting goods (no mechanized exercise equipment)
  • Small appliances
  • Yard/garden items
  • Seasonal items
  • Shopping bags

Calgary Inter-Faith Furniture Society

  • Furniture
  • Kitchenware
  • Small appliances
  • Toys and games
  • Clothing
  • Books
  • Music

Goodwill

  • Clothing
  • Home décor
  • Small appliances
  • Tvs, stereos, small electronics
  • Small tools
  • Sporting equipment
  • Toys, games
  • Books, movies, music
  • Household goods
  • Linens

Cornerstone Youth Centre

  • School supplies
  • Art/Craft supplies

Food Bank

  • Canned food
  • Juice
  • Pasta
  • Rice
  • Baby food and formula
  • Diapers

Comrie’s Sports Equipment Bank

  • Sporting equipment

Two Wheel View

  • Tools
  • Bike pannier sets
  • Bikes

Kidseat Recyclers:

  • Take your old carseat in to be recycled

Best of luck getting prepared this spring!  Download our Garage Sale 411 PDF for a quick breakdown to help you make the most out of your garage sale. Catch us this Wednesday May 9 at 8:30 a.m. on CTV Two or Saturday May 12 at 10 a.m. on CTV Calgary to catch our full Spring episode.